Today I was sitting in the dentist office lobby and beside me was a woman and her husband. Suddenly, I heard the man say to what I assume was his wife to “shut up and sit still.” It caught me quite by surprise, to say the least, and I was getting more concerned by the moment with his behavior. I sat still and heard her ask him if she could read the magazine he was reading when he had finished, and his response absolutely shook me. He said, “if I wanted you to read a magazine I would have given you one”. Wow did this make me suddenly feel as though I was going to throw up.
I was torn instantly between saying something or not saying something. Which would you have done? After taking a moment to catch my breath, I realized that if I said anything right then she could be hurt then if not later for sure. Eventually she was called to the back to be seen and so was I.
Upon finishing my appointment I returned to the waiting area to exit, and saw him sitting there in his assumed glory. Not realizing that he really was a very small man in many ways with the smug look he had on his face. I wanted to say something to him so badly and yet I chose for the safety of the woman to not say a word.
I exited the building and got in my car, as I drove down the street I began to question if I made the right choice and was there something I should have done. My answer to myself then became that I should have searched her out in the back area where she was being seen and ask her if she needed help.
Wow!! How many of us do the same thing? Walk away and then later decide or question what we did do? I can’t be disappointed in myself, I need to see it as yet another learning experience and know without question that if that were to ever happen again, I will most assuredly turn back and ask if she is okay.
So what’s the right thing? Make a stand without putting someone in danger.